Thank you, NetGalley for giving me access me to an eBook copy of Beyond Pronouns: The Essential Guide for Parents of Trans Children by Tammy Plunkett for free in exchange for an honest review.
When I saw this book on NetGalley I was taken back to when I started my blog and my request to read Trans Teen Survival Guide by Fox Fisher and Owl Fisher was accepted. When I got that approval, I sat on the book till I had enough blog traffic to get the book the attention it deserves. Now here I am again four years later able to share another supportive book for the trans community. I still think it's vital that we have more books like this to support the Trans community. It isn’t wasted on me how lucky I am to be able to read such a diverse book without the worry of any book restrictions.
Beyond Pronouns is a guide for parents whose child has just come out to them as trans. It is written in a way that feels more like talking to a friend who's been there than a factual handbook. Tammy is the parent of a trans child and uses her own family's story as a framework for the book. Although the book focused on the author and transitioning son, it also talks about how to be an ally to your trans or gender diverse child. A message that often gets lost in in the media and on social media.
By using her own family's story as a framework, it is
clear Tammy isn’t pretending to be a leading medical expert and this book isn’t
some ground-breaking medical document, but this book instead is a stunning
example of what respect, supporting others and honesty & integrity mean and
can make possible. There are journaling prompts at the end of each chapter, so
it functions as a guide and self-help book for parents who are still learning
their way around.
I am not a parent, but I think this book manages to do a good job of validating and recognising the range of emotions and experiences that a parent goes through in a way that doesn’t come across as patronising but still comforting. I think this book was very well executed, and it highlights a lot of struggles and can help others not just parents on how to better assist as an ally.